According to the
experts and the traditions of AhlulBayt (a.s.), a child comprehends the meaning
of other’s words from the time he/she is four months old in his mother’s womb.
Therefore, it is recommended that mothers should recite the Glorious Qur’an
during pregnancy and after birth, let the child hear the Glorious Qur’an. It is
reinforced by the recitation of Azan and Iqama in the child’s ears.
General Behavior:
As soon as a child
begins to utter words, coach him/her the
basic Shia faith like the Oneness of Allah, names of Panjetan, names of twelve
Imams and the names of the Infallible Fourteen Masoomeen; progressively, first
numbers followed by the names. Roots and Branches of Islam, first names then
English or Urdu meanings should be learnt by heart.
Slowly, teach him
the etiquette and good manners.
Do not order or
forbid your child too much.
Do not hit your
child when he cries.
Do not ridicule
actions of your child. Kiss and hug your child a great deal.
Say Salaam to your
child to build his/her character and personality.
Respect your child
and always keep your promises to him.
As a prelude to
the future sexual training, train them to ask for permission to enter parent’s
bed room.
While giving bath
to a child, make sure other children are not present, do not play with the
genitals, chests or thighs, and never leave children alone for a long period of
time. Do not let a girl of six years or over, sit on the lap of a “Na-Mahram”
or even kissed by a “Na-Mahram”. Do not let girls be naked in front of others.
Create love for
Salaat in your child. In Surah al-Ankaboot Ayah 45 which says: “Indeed the
prayer prevents indecencies and wrongs.”
Do not spoil a
child which will create weakness and a lack of determination and will power.
Pray for your
children, both during pregnancy and afterwards.
Reminders and
requests should be given with gentleness so as not to create a barrier between
parents and the child.
Respect your child
so as to avoid rebellion against the rules of the house.
Become a role
model for your child.
Foster the faith
of your child.
Cuddle and kiss
your child, it is one of our soul food.
Separate the beds
of children over 6 years old.
When guiding the
child, do not mention or compare the names of other children constantly.
Stay away from the
bossy behavior towards your child.
It is very
important to inculcate the habit of telling the truth in the child. Parents
should lead by example.
Do not use fear as
a factor of raising a child as this damage his/her personality.
Stories are a
useful and important tool of encouraging virtues as the Glorious Qur’an
contains numerous stories. But in selecting stories attention be focused on
child’s age, intelligence, name of Allah should be mentioned, avoid extremes,
truth and righteousness should prevail and it should be short.
Make sure your
child performs Salaat (Namaz) from 7 years and fasting from 9 years of age.
Do not be quick to
accuse your child of lying.
Encourage your
child to ask questions to satisfy his inquisitiveness.
Avoid quarreling
in front of your child which will affect him adversely.
Children have a
particular fear of the word death, especially the death of their mother or
father. Hence, at a suitable age explain the truth about death, clearly and
calmly without eliciting fear.
Sources used:
Better Future by:
Abdul Azeem Mutadi
Pious son by:
Rayhaneye Beheshti
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