According to the experts and the traditions of AhlulBayt (a.s.), a child comprehends the meaning of other’s words from the time he/she is four months old in his mother’s womb. Therefore, it is recommended that mothers should recite the Glorious Qur’an during pregnancy and after birth, let the child hear the Glorious Qur’an. It is reinforced by the recitation of Azan and Iqama in the child’s ears.
As soon as a child begins to utter words, coach him/her the basic Shia faith like the Oneness of Allah, names of Panjetan, names of twelve Imams and the names of the Infallible Fourteen Masoomeen; progressively, first numbers followed by the names. Roots and Branches of Islam, first names then English or Urdu meanings should be learnt by heart.
Slowly, teach him the etiquette and good manners.
Do not order or forbid your child too much.
Do not hit your child when he cries.
Do not ridicule actions of your child. Kiss and hug your child a great deal.
Say Salaam to your child to build his/her character and personality.
Respect your child and always keep your promises to him.
As a prelude to the future sexual training, train them to ask for permission to enter parent’s bed room.
While giving bath to a child, make sure other children are not present, do not play with the genitals, chests or thighs, and never leave children alone for a long period of time. Do not let a girl of six years or over, sit on the lap of a “Na-Mahram” or even kissed by a “Na-Mahram”. Do not let girls be naked in front of others.
Create love for Salaat in your child. In Surah al-Ankaboot Ayah 45 which says: “Indeed the prayer prevents indecencies and wrongs.”
Do not spoil a child which will create weakness and a lack of determination and will power.
Pray for your children, both during pregnancy and afterwards.
Reminders and requests should be given with gentleness so as not to create a barrier between parents and the child.
Respect your child so as to avoid rebellion against the rules of the house.
Become a role model for your child.
Foster the faith of your child.
Cuddle and kiss your child, it is one of our soul food.
Separate the beds of children over 6 years old.
When guiding the child, do not mention or compare the names of other children constantly.
Stay away from the bossy behavior towards your child.
It is very important to inculcate the habit of telling the truth in the child. Parents should lead by example.
Do not use fear as a factor of raising a child as this damage his/her personality.
Stories are a useful and important tool of encouraging virtues as the Glorious Qur’an contains numerous stories. But in selecting stories attention be focused on child’s age, intelligence, name of Allah should be mentioned, avoid extremes, truth and righteousness should prevail and it should be short.
Make sure your child performs Salaat (Namaz) from 7 years and fasting from 9 years of age.
Do not be quick to accuse your child of lying.
Encourage your child to ask questions to satisfy his inquisitiveness.
Avoid quarreling in front of your child which will affect him adversely.
Children have a particular fear of the word death, especially the death of their mother or father. Hence, at a suitable age explain the truth about death, clearly and calmly without eliciting fear.
Better Future by: Abdul Azeem Mutadi
Pious son by: Rayhaneye Beheshti