One of the recognized and indisputable commandments of Islam is the marriage – the sacred union that
takes place only between man and woman. Man has been created for woman and vice
versa. They are attracted to each other like magnets. Marriage and establishing
a joint family are a natural desire of human beings responding to their instincts.
The house is the center of love, kindness, and friendship, whereby it is the
best place to relax and live comfortably. Through marriage the procreation of
mankind is continued. The love Muslim spouses have for each other should be for
the sake of Allah and to gain His pleasure! Although, there are more than 16 Ayahs
relating to marriage, but selected Ayahs of the Glorious Qur’an are appended
below:
Surah al-Nur Ayah 32,
“Marry off those who are single among you and the upright among your male
slaves and your female slaves. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them out of
His Grace, and Allah is all-bounteous, all-knowing.
Surah al-Nur Ayah33, “Those who cannot
afford marriage should be continent until Allah enriches them out of His Grace.”
Thus, one must not resort to evil, sin or illicit sexual relationships because
they cannot find a permanent spouse.
Surah al-Rum Ayah 21, “And
of His signs is that He created for you mates from your own selves that you may
take comfort in them, and He ordained affection and mercy between you. There
are indeed signs in that for a people who reflect. “
The Noble Messenger
(s.a.w.a.s.) said, “Of my tradition is to marry. So then whoever turns away
from my tradition (Sunnah) is not from me (my nation).”
Only the marriage of prophet
Musa was described in the Glorious Qur’an. He came to Madyan, where Hazrat
Shoaib was living with his two daughters. Hazrat Musa (a.s.) helped his
daughters in watering their sheep. Hazrat Shoaib wanted to compensate Hazrat
Musa for his assistance. One of his daughters came to Hazrat Musa (a.s.) and
said, “Then one of two women approached him, walking bashfully. She said,
‘Indeed my father invites you to pay you the wages for watering (our flock) for
us. (28:25) She was guiding Hazrat Musa and due to wind, her feet were
uncovered. Hazrat Musa told her to walk behind him. She told her father, “One
of the two women said, ’Father, hire him. Indeed, the best you can hire is a
powerful and trustworthy man’. “(28:26) Hazrat Shoaib said, “Indeed I desire to
marry you to one of my two daughters, on condition that you hire yourself to me
for eight years…” Thus, Hazrat Musa (a.s.) married that girl.
Factors for the marriage to
be noted are Hazrat Shoaib was an Arab while Hazrat Musa was an Israelite, he
left his hometown for fear of his life, he was penniless; without any material
resources, his daughter noted his piety.
Sayyida Khadija (s.a.)
also proposed to marry the Noble Messenger (s.a.w.a.s.) against the opinion of the
people who looked at the apparent material status. She appreciated his
“Truthfulness” and “Trustworthiness”. Similarly, in case of her daughter
(Fatima Zahra s.a.), the Noble Messenger (s.a.w.a.s.) did not see the material
status of Imam Ali (a.s.) whose only possessions were his sword, camel, and a
shield.
Marriage in Islam inculcates
the following: Love for the sake of Allah, increase in sustenance, acceptance
of personalities, challenge and realization of potential, mercy and
forgiveness, respect and care, confidentiality, growth, truthfulness, and
selflessness.
Sources: The Religion of
al-Islam and Marriage by Arifa Hudda, Principles of Marriage and Family Ethics
by Ibrahim Amini
Marriage and Morals in
Islam.com, Why Islam.org